Welcome to the fourth episode of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Your Right to Fight.”
No matter how smart you are, or whose advice you listen to, you’ll never be truly happy until you embrace your right to fight. This show is all about giving yourself the permission to do whatever it takes to secure your safety and success.
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Episode #4 makes complete sense for me, especially after having listened to episodes #1, #2 and #3.
Thanks Sensei Ando!
Let’s hope that momentum keeps building! I fear it won’t, but let’s hope! 🙂
How did you know, Sensei Ando?! Today I paused my fitness training to take “some time” to focus on just cleaning my house!!!! Not that exciting!! No glory. Humbling myself is a price I am willing to pay.
But I have great news: my fitness club opens earlier. Better opportunities for me.
I’m going to enjoy even more each drop of sweat !!!
… getting back in the rhythm!!!!
Or momentum, if you prefer.
Ha! Yes… enjoy each drop of sweat. And then a piece of pie! 🙂
In another field too, I made some progress. I dared to use another machine today at the fitness and did 30 “chest fly” reps.
I could feel testosterone fueling my moves; the guys weren’t watching me.
Good to know that I am accepted at the gym like if I were another dude.
Ha! You are most definitely NOT just another dude! 😀
Ha, ha, ha!!!
Update! Sensei Ando, you do know a lot!
Momentum is building up again … I had to keep an eye on opportunities and keep the good work.
I got rewarded for some big effort I did, which is opening doors now …
Happy, I’m happy.
Thanks!
Hi Ingrid!
If you’re happy, I’m happy! Thanks for the update! 😀
Lucifer? Satan? LOL!!!
This was a gorgeous episode.
If I make him the devil, then I become an angel! 🙂 Thanks for the comment, Karin!
Hi Josephina! I also love the video Ando made about the same subject where he highlights that we have to do whatever it takes to secure our safety and our happiness!
Did you watch that video too?
Ando: LOL!!
Ingrid, I think not… Not yet!
Enjoy your day.
Thanks!
Here is the link of that video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ARGu7HmwYJ0
Enjoy your day too!
Thank you!
Hi, Sensei Ando:
Your website is really friendly, simple and useful, I like it a lot. I don’t love the background color and the color palette in general, and I say that just to express my opinion, not as an insult.
Thank you very much for the content. This podcast (#4) got me deeply, because I think I have not excercised my right to fight for the last years. I’ve been the nice girl, maybe because I got that label early in my childhood and my own mother, even though she has been a fighter, sometimes showed me in some areas of her life that we were not the people to have some things, like beautiful clothes, or be served at restaurants or even have and sustain an opinion. Any way, that deeply ingrained feeling has made my life really miserable lately because, even I feel that I am able to accomplish goals that I want in life, I find myself always restraining, not trying enough, making mistakes… and failing. I will put in practice your advise and hopefully it will helpme to thrive.
Thank you again and keep the good work! Your generosity is inspiring!
Lupita
Hi Lupita!
Nice to meet you! Thank you for the kind words… and the website color advice! 🙂
Some people think that you have to make a choice between being nice or being a fighter… but that’s a big mistake! The secret to your power is being BOTH!
There is a time to be nice and a time to fight. But since you’re a nice person, even when you decide to fight, it will be for a good cause, which means you’re still being nice!
So, trust your heart to guide you and trust your spirit to fight for you. The world needs you at full power! 🙂
Thank you Sensei Ando for enlightening us on this… I’ve always asked myself why people would hurt others so viciously. I’m dealing with someone who has done horrendous things that will harm others, maybe all their lives. I wondered why they would do those things – lie, cheat, manipulate, extort. I always tell myself I’ll never understand why because I would never do that. I’ve found that this type of behavior is what brings out my inner bully as well. I asked myself about this part of me: “Who is this person? And why does she want to destroy the bully and why does she call herself Warrior?” You called this wisdom, assertiveness, in the podcast. When you called this your “primal need” some primal place in me was touched. I finally understood this so much better. Thank you for making me feel ok about being me.
Yes, Anna, YES! Life is short… we don’t have time to figure out every mystery. If we can’t understand evil, then let’s focus on managing it.
Sorry to hear that you’re dealing with a hurtful soul. Nothing wrong with wanting to destroy that bully… that suggests you’re a good person. The fact that you haven’t buried him/her already, PROVES it! 😀
Just protect yourself and keep marching towards your goals. Being the best you possible is the surest way of making the world a better place. Keep fighting, Anna!
Hello Sensei,
thanks for the podcast, its a great source of wisdom to me.
I could basically agree to every word you said in this video. It sums up a lot of of stuff that I already know in theory. In theory, thats the problem.
Back in school I had a lot of trouble with bullies and rooting in that time I have built a habit of running instead of fighting. Let me explain that a little further:
Me saying that I am running does not mean I run from every fight, its not that bad. I am also normally well able to analyze and admit if someone is abusing me. And I solve the conflicts usually by shutting this kind of people out of my life. So I think I am pretty decent at avoiding being abused. However I am well aware that you cant dodge every blow coming at you.
And this is what I have trouble with. Standing my ground in a sudden situation of conflict. Especially if the other side is irrational or aggressive. Whenever that happens I feel being sucked back into the past, turning into that nerdy school kid that could not help himself the slightest. Which makes fighting back instantly pretty hard to impossible for me.
And of course I know this is just not how it should be, even though these situations are rare.
I wonder if you have any idea or inspiration how to chance this.
Best,
Henning
Hi Henning!
You’re not alone. I think most nice people feel the same way as you do. At least I do!
For me, it all comes down to rehearsal. Martial arts gave me a chance to practice standing my ground, looking at people in the eye, and take physical control of aggression. I also had to clarify my belief system, so that I knew what was worth fighting for and what wasn’t.
I’m not saying it’s been an easy or quick journey, but I do feel FAR different from the nerdy kid I used to be. So, seek out training experiences that take you out of your comfort zone and allow you to practice being exactly who you want to be. That’s my best advice!
Keep fighting! 🙂
Hahahah thank u , sure being nice doesn’t pay, mostly it can only take u down. I had a problem on holding back in my social life, business and even on my training. People could hurt mi in a way but I was afraid of hurting them back. haha now I understand the that “the way you do anything is the way you do everything” that Madam nice thing was pulling me back in a lot of things. Most times I could put others first and forgetting about myself , hurting and suppressing my self.
Now, that I have listened to this message. I feel like I have been released from the boundage. I started doing shadow boxing and I was feeling soo energetic, so powerful hitting punching without holding back . YES that’s an achievement my Trainer used to tell mi not to hold back and I just found myself holding back 🤣🙆🏻♀️ Now I know the root cause was that I was soo nice and I had soo much feelings for people yet I was getting hurt in return.
Here comes a WORRI
ER!
I am going to train with my full potential. I am going to hit hard with all my energy and power 🙅🏻♀️ Nomore feeling pity !
I have realized that I was living with an enermy. This good heart of mine made mi to loose a lot of opportunities. Not anymore now I AM GOING TO FIGHT FOR A HAPPY LIFE
WHOO! You got me all pumped up, Pamela! 😀
Yes, train and live with your full potential! Your good heart will make sure you use your power for the right reason, so never hold back… trust it!!
Go forth and conquer!
This podcast helped alot in my training with a bully.
He no longer want to spar with me. But my instructor says he has no choice since I can make him a better person and not bully others. Thank you.
Good work, Kendall! Improve yourself and then improve others. It’s a beautiful cycle!